Words Glorious Words: how to use them to unlock your potential
For a few seconds, I couldn’t put my finger on it.
I just knew something wasn’t connecting.
All the butterflies and excitement I had been feeling about growing into the next stage of my business had suddenly left me in the lurch.
Let me set the scene:
I had just started working with a fab new coach and mentor to help support me drive my vision forward (yes I do have a coach- vital for my own growth).
We’d got deep into the logistics - the strategy planning, the goals, milestones, facts and figures.
And yet I felt cold.
I started to panic….Did I really want this? Could I be caught up in what Jamie Smart refers to in his fab new book Clarity a toxic goal rather than an authentic desire? ( translation: I thought I wanted this but it wasn't really my true desire and purpose...)
Then I had my ah-ha!
Of course I was feeling cold because the language we were using didn't capture the juiciness of what my project's all about. It didn't speak to that part of me that sparked with desire to make this happen.
Instead the word ‘strategy’ felt clinical.
'Goals' - mechanical- the stuffing overused in far too many predictable self- help books.
So what did we do?
We changed it.
I swapped the label ‘strategy’ for ‘diamond plan’.
Good bye vacuous 'Timeline' and Hello "Diamond Dance"
(Yes I know that might sound ridiculous to you- but hell so what- it works for me and that's all that matters........ )
A few simple shifts in the words we were using and all the excitement came flooding back. Diamond plan resonated with me on a whole new level. It captured the raw essence of what it's all about. I saw the future path sparkling, rich, valuable in what it represents to me on a soulful as well as material level...
Rather than slogging over strategy - which is the experience that word evokes for me- building my diamond plan feels effortless, fun, expansive. And because I feel that way about it, I'm able bring my full potential and commitment to it.
Please note: My diamond plan is all the stuff of brilliant strategy (because every great business needs this), but it's how I chose to package it up that makes the difference.
and another note: Everyone is different. The word strategy might light you up and get you all excited. If so fab- you use that. It's all about finding what resonates for you best.
The words we use influence our thoughts and feelings - and as a result the actions we choose to take. We need to pick them wisely.
Take for example my client who was anxious around getting her first paying client outside of her job (and the first vital step in starting her own business). When she was speaking about this, I noticed she uttered the words 'PROPER CLIENT' as through referring to some five headed alien lurking in the shadows. It instantly alerted me that she was creating a fearful movie in her internal world of what a 'paying client' meant, and the language she used was both reflecting and fueling that.
No wonder she was fearful, paralysed from taking action.
So what did we do about it?
We changed it to something that felt better. Here’s what we did (and you can apply this yourself to anything you want to remove the anxiety/ fear/ nervousness from and feel more positive about)
1) I encouraged her to change the movie. I got her to picture herself deep in inspired conversation with her clients, to take them out of the menacing shadows into the bright day light, to inject the scene with vivid colour- to see and feel herself confident, connected, giving herself fully to the moment with delicious ease.
2) I encouraged her to find the words that best conjured the image above. Out went ‘proper client’ (eek!) and in came Inspired Collaborator
Suddenly, getting her first ‘inspired collaborator’ felt exciting, natural, easy.....
Have a think about the words you're using to refer to the things that are really important to you- and are fundamental in creating the success you want. Do they create the most empowering images and sensations?
If not- change them!
(and be as creative and crazy as you like. Come on, there's a Shakespeare inside of you somewhere )
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